I've had this happen too often lately. I'm taking a nuanced stance about something, and a person involved in the discussion says one of the following:
1. You're throwing out the baby with the bathwater.
No I'm not, I never said to throw out any bathwater. I'm bringing some nuance to the discussion.
2. You're contradicting yourself.
No I'm not, I'm showing that, in fact, this is not a matter of absolutes. That's what I said at the beginning.
3. Sometimes the other discussant simply starts arguing against a point I never made because they assume that if I believe X, I must believe Y.
I'm not even sure how to respond to that one.
Conclusion 1: I need a fucking vacation.
Conclusion 2: This is why I hate "discourse."
4 months ago